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Jewish views on marital relations, is also known as Tashmish Hamitah (Hebrew: תשמיש המיטה). In Rabbinic literature, there are Halakhot and detailed instructions on how and when to have sexual intercourse. This has been discussed extensively by Chazal, along with keeping a clean expression.

In Jewish tradition, sexual relations are the obligation of a man to his wife. This obligation is known as "onah" (עונה). Although engagement in sexual relations should be entirely at the discretion of the woman, a wife should not withhold or use sex as a negotiating ploy.

Judaism sees the passion and the pleasure of sexual relations between a couple as positive things, provided that their use would be to mitzvah and not for pleasure or fulfillment of desire. This view derives from access to the sanctification of the material, when he became the right purpose and in the holiness and Tzniut.

Treatment of marital relations

The basic Jewish positive attitude towards sex and sexuality is especially opposed to Western Christianity, which does not view the matter much in favor, due to a belief that sex has been contaminated by original sin. The Jewish sages recognized that the sexual need of mankind (also known as yitzra de'arayot, יצרה דעריות) is essential for perpetuating society, despite having known its negative sides which may lead to sins. For the aforementioned reason, Chazal's attitude and statements on the matter are dual, and they recognize two inclinations in mankind, the Yetzer hatov (the "Good inclination") and the Yetzer hara (the "evil inclination"), that can both influence sexuality and sexual behaviors.

Maimonides wrote in his book "The Guide for the Perplexed": Touch is obscene, because it gives preference to eating and sexual intercourse. Nahmanides wrote that it was not obscene, but that's holy and clean.

Purposes

Israeli scholars have defined number of targets positive aspect of sexual desire;

• To reproduce.
• Create peace and unity between the couple. According to the Talmud, the human female is the only creature in the world that can sustain marital life during her pregnancy, that is, sexual relations are not only for reproduction.
• Medical benefit to the fetus and the pregnant woman, according to the different stages of pregnancy.
• Zohar is another aspect, the divine bounty download world, by preoccupation with sexual relations in holiness.

Lust

Sages of Israel saw lust (also called desire) as a prerequisite for composing unity between the couple. Sages also praised the members of the king Monobaz II, who had sexual relations during the day, because they did this to not be tired, because tired is not so desire. The Rishonim presented that matter as the husband's passion for breeding, that by this he happily spends his seed.

Marital intercourse time

Chazal determined times to maintain marital relations, based on what they appraised the woman's opinion of these times she wished. And therefore, any time the man notices that his wife wants to intercourse, even when you say it in her mouth, he is committed to the law. And took posekim, most of the commandments of 'onah' was said when the woman desire it. and quoted the Talmud: "Every woman demanded ('Tovat') her husband speak commands will be her sons that even the generation of Moses were not like them". and that means: 'Tovat', that it indicates or adorns herself to notice her, or euphemistically tells him "come to me (like Leah said to Jacob) and etc., but she can not ask in the nerve, and boldness and words of Chazal "rude people".

Sexual relations in the daytime

The Talmud mentions should not have sexual relations in the daytime, and presents a number of reasons:

• Because the light is not modesty.
• To not see anything improper in the body of his wife, his attraction to hurt her. This concern is precisely at a time of great physical intimacy, then can to disturb a small dot or a small defect.
• According to Maimonides it is considered presumption.

The main reason is because of modesty, and therefore may have sexual relations at dark, as well as a scholar, because who knows how to to be modest, covered with cloth and having sexual relations. Because there are other reasons, it is best to avoid any case, unless there is a need for it, such as his inclination to discard it, or if you can have sex only during the day.

Marital relations Situations

n Jewish law, not to have sexual relations when it immodest. I mean, other people might hear, see or know that the couple have intimate relations. To a baby who knows nothing, is allowed. Degree of modesty, that animals will not be present in the act. Also, do not have sexual relations outside, a place without walls, because the burglaries. Tent is considered as a house for this purpose.

Marital relations in pregnancy

The Talmud says, "three months early pregnancy sex is hard for the woman and for the fetus. Three months in the middle of pregnancy, are hard for the woman, but beneficial to the fetus. Three months final pregnancy, sexual relations are beneficial both a woman and the fetus, and thereby the fetus out pretty good". The Chazon Ish said, that having sex once a week is fine, and it's not hard.

See also

• Judaism and sexuality

Further reading

• Boteach, Shmuley (1999). Kosher Sex: A Recipe for Passion and Intimacy. New York: Doubleday. ISBN 0385494653.